A young girl of age 26 was talking to me that at her era now, she could see so many changes in life and people are mostly interested in making money and have no more moral values and responsibilities.
Boys and girls love each other during courting time and once they got married, the boys would spend time scouting for other women and some women did the same thing. During her parents’ time, they still tolerated each other and came to a compromise to stay on so that they would not effect the emotional part of their next generation and they just accepted their fate and lived on as happy as possible together.
Now she is so afraid to get married. No wonder there are so many singles living on their own in this world. Countries like Japan, Singapore, Korea, China and many other developed countries are having the same problems.
They have no faith in believing in religions. They want to spend their time with the computers or staying late in Starbucks or at some noisy areas to tire out their bodies before they go to bed. Then the next morning, they would drag their heavy bodies and sleepy eyes to go to work. Living in this life has lost its meaning.
May be the politicians should examine into the educational, cultural and political systems and make some adjustments to cater for the young ones.
( 2 cents opinion )
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All over the world, flirting becomes popular. Everyone likes it. People begin to think that simply working hard round the clock has no meaning and spend one’s time at least for a short time, will get them emotional and psychological pleasures.
The world is experiencing great changes over the past five decades. There were great economic changes in countries from under developed to developing to developed countries. The women’s liberation brought about higher education, higher social status, social independence and finacial independence. The fabric of society have also changed, women that stay at home as housewives now start working in factories and offices, earning money. Women now spend less time at home with their children. The imparting of family values, moral values are lacking. Now the domestic maids have taken over as standin moms, from different countries, with different values, some too young to have moral values also. Women now in many developed countries are in par with men in social status, they become less tolerant on family issues, they want more say in family affairs, etc….
For the men, now they will have to help out in the house work, taking care of kids, cook, etc….
Two decades ago, the booming internet era, computerisation, mechanisation, automation, the advance of social media, change the life style in more ways than ever, be it in workplace and or at home.
Social media have provide opportunities to meet many friends, many chance to interact, changes the way people behave, changes the expectation, etc…
With money, people start to buy and enjoy material things and entertainments, life style change, they don’t want to tie down themselves in family life, the lack of commitment, and also due to stressful lifestyle. These have also taken away our monthly expenses, making marriage a second option.
Sometimes, conflicts in relationship, lack of communication and understanding, inter family conflicts also affects relationship.
Well said.
It is the lack of respect of each other. Seems that the theme keeps returning to a lack of mutual respect for the unfolding and development of each of us on earth. If only to beging at this fundamental point much of the rest would fall into it’s proper balance. When we we only respect out of fear and simply blindly obey nothing can develop. How can one love another if fundamental respect is missing. Perhaps this is crossing all borders and all religions? Somehow humans succumbed to valuing each other always in a materialistic way forgetting that you cannot buy or trade love and compassion which is the source of life. However, humanity is beginning to do some real soul searching. I believe that the overwhelming organic evolution of humankind will lead us to discover the enlightened being within ourselves…for this we do need the teachers to lift the guiding lamp….Thank you for your wonderful posts as always
Here in the west many young people come from broken homes or single parent homes and haven’t had good examples on how to build relationships. My parents fought all the time, if they even spoke to each other at all. Not surprisingly, I’m divorced and have had several failed relationships. It took many years to learn on my own from my mistakes. Kids learn by example and their education begins at birth.
Very well said.
I think mutual repect as husband and wife is very fundamental also. But modern society have change all that, the role model in the family is all outside making a living and the grand parents are staying far away to impart the civil and moral values. So youngsters today lack the role model to follow.
CHOW Cheong King 鄒長泉 